Exploring the messy emotional side of cancer — grief, resentment, jealousy, loneliness, body image, and finding ways to process the stuff nobody really talks about and improve your mental health.
Cancer doesn’t just hijack your health, it rewrites your entire future. One moment you’re planning a life. The next, you’re staring down a treatment plan, a prognosis, and a list of things that might never happen. For many of us, especially those diagnosed young, the hardest part isn’t the chemo, the surgery, or even the […]
The Life Milestones Cancer Stole (That I’ll Never Get Back) Read More »
“If you only had a year to live, what would you do?” It’s the kind of question that’s meant to inspire people. Push them to chase dreams, take risks, or appreciate life more deeply. But when you actually do have limited time left, and you’re sick every day, the question hits differently. Sometimes it just
What’s the Point of a Bucket List When You’re Sick Every Day? Read More »
Cancer didn’t just happen to me. It happened to my whole family. And honestly, that’s the part that hits the hardest. When I first heard the words “You have cancer,” it was like the ground cracked open underneath me. But what I didn’t realise straight away was that it wasn’t just my world that was
Cancer Didn’t Just Happen to Me, It Happened to My Whole Family Read More »
You don’t have to feel like a warrior to have cancer. You don’t have to battle, fight, crush, slay, or conquer. You don’t even have to stay strong. You just have to keep going, in whatever way you can. When the metaphors don’t fit Cancer comes with baggage and not just the medical kind.
Not Every Cancer Patient Feels Like a “Warrior” or “Fighter” Read More »
Cancer milestones are weird. Some are obvious, loud, and celebrated. Last chemo. Last radiation session. The day you finally get to ring the bell. But then there are the quieter ones. The ones nobody warns you about. The ones that hit harder than you expect or feel strangely emotional even though they seem small from
Cancer Milestones Nobody Talks About: Port Out, First Haircut Back, Eating Fibre Again Read More »
Cancer changes a lot of things. Your body. Your plans. Your energy. But one thing I didn’t fully expect? How much it changes your friendships. Cancer Changes Everything, Including Your Friendships It’s not always in a bad way. It’s just… different. When you get diagnosed, it’s like you suddenly live on a whole other planet.
I Love My Friends But Sometimes They Just Don’t Get It Read More »
I never thought dying would make me feel like I had to censor myself. I’m not talking about the big, philosophical stuff. If anything, I care less what the average person thinks of me now. I don’t stress about small talk or strangers or how I’m perceived in public. That noise has gone quiet. But
Holding Back Who I Am So You’re Not Hurt When I’m Gone Read More »
Being young with cancer is lonely in ways nobody prepares you for. It is not just the physical side of treatment or the emotional heaviness of facing your own mortality. It’s realising life around you keeps moving while you are stuck in survival mode. Friends are getting promotions, travelling, falling in love, buying houses, starting
Being Young With Cancer Feels Isolating as Hell Read More »
I never thought I’d be sitting here at 30 years old grieving a life that still looks normal to most people on the outside. But here we are. Cancer didn’t just attack my body. It stole the roadmap I had for my future. It ripped apart the plans I’d quietly built in my head (the
Grieving Your Old Life at 30: Processing Identity Loss After Cancer Read More »
I’m often told how positive I seem, or how inspiring it is that I’m still grateful despite everything. And I’ll be honest, I am grateful. Almost every day. For my wife. For the people in my life. For every day I’m still here. For sun on my face. For painkillers that work. For good scan
It’s Possible to Be Grateful and Angry at the Same Time Read More »
